July 3, 2008 at 10:48 am
Just as they are
Many people misinterpret a contrary opinion as someone not understanding them. If you don’t agree with what your partner is saying, it doesn’t mean you think they are wrong or that you don’t understand where they are coming from.
It is important to portray this when you are discussing something. Instead of arguing your point, try something a little more sensitive. Don’t bring up things from the past, and don’t say things you know will upset your partner.
It’s very hard to take back the emotional hurt that can be caused by the words you say. You may not mean what you’re saying, but your partner won’t always know that. Don’t allow yourself to just snap and say whatever comes to mind.
You don’t need time to let things stew. Try to handle any problems right there and then. Offer any suggestions you have about handling the situation, and ask your partner if they have any ideas as well.
Work together as a team to find ways to overcome your obstacles. Everyone needs someone who loves, adores and respects them just as they are.
